Friday, March 23, 2012

baby sleep

you know that saying, "when mama's happy, everyone's happy"? i would like to amend that to: "when baby's happy (and sleeping), everyone's happy (and sleeping)." it's so ironic that just yesterday i said A had started sleeping better, because last night was not good. it took me close to an hour to get her to sleep, not including our whole night time routine. that is just the time i spent holding, rocking, patting, nursing, and jiggling her trying to get her little eyes to close and to stay closed when i set her precious little butt in the crib. she finally went down at 8:30. when i woke up to pee at 12:45, i was happy to see her still sound asleep. i was a little smug even, thinking to myself, "it's going to be amazing to be well-rested two days in a row!" HA!

P got home at 1:30 (he works nights) and she was still fast asleep. of course, i had been awake since 12:45 debating whether to dreamfeed her since i was awake anyway. P and i decided against it in favor of seeing how long she would sleep without a dreamfeed. BAM at 2 AM she is awake! i go in, check her diaper, and nurse her in the glider. we are gliding and nursing. i am doing my best to not fall asleep and let her roll off my boob. i realized that 30 minutes had gone by and she still had not passed out! i took the boob away, which she mildly protested by grunting and rooting and smacking me in the boob, and rocked her. and rocked her. and rocked her. at 3 AM P came in to give me a break, since i needed to get up for the day at 4:30. he could not get her to stay asleep either and determined her teeth were causing discomfort. after a half dose of tyl.enol and some more nursing, she was finally out. i slept for 40 minutes before my alarm went off and look like holy hell today.

so, in conclusion, it wasn't a terrible night. she didn't wake up six times or more like she had been before this week, but it was still tough to be up that long in the wee hours of the morning. A started out as a great sleeper. i had to wake her every 3 hours during the night until she was 2 months for feeds, and after 2 months, i got the ok from the pediatrician to let her go a 7 hour stretch. she slept for a 7 hour stretch most nights until she was 4 months old, when all hell broke loose and she decided sleeping for 1.5 hour stretches was more desirable. i have read a lot about 4 month sleep regressions, but 4 months also happened to be exactly when i returned to work. although i only work in the office three days, she noticed. smart little bugger.

aside from a few partial test nights after she turned 6 months and some short naps, A had not slept in her crib in her room all night until last Saturday night. before that, she was in a portacrib in our room. that first night went well. she woke up three times: once P rocked her back to sleep in less than 5 minutes and twice to nurse. she slept until 7:45 AM! Sunday night was even better with only two wake ups, and Monday and Tuesday night only one wake up to feed. she was definitely ready for her crib. she probably has been for a while, but i wasn't ready.

i loved having her arms length away from me all night and being able to pull her into bed with us whenever i wanted; however, she was waking frequently at night and P convinced me that we were waking her with our tossing and turning and his snoring. turns out, he was right, but i still miss having her so close at night. i definitely do not miss the frequent night wakings and have been much happier with more sleep! hopefully last night was a fluke and tonight i will be able to get some sleep. because sleep is awesome.

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  1. SLEEP IS AWESOME!

    B had been sleeping 10-12 hours straight at night and hasn't done it in about 3 weeks. I'm exhausted. Last night we got up to lay him back down 7 times. He sits up in his sleep and can't figure out how to lay back down.

    I look forward to better sleep in our future!!! (please god).

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    1. Me too! The good sleep will return. A did something similar when she learned to roll over. She would wake herself up by rolling over onto her tummy, or would wake up and roll over, and then cry because she didn't want to be there. It was so cute because it was like she was practicing her new skill... yet, VERY tiring for P and I. Did you sleep train? We have been discussing it, but have yet to pull the trigger as I am conflicted about it. Hopefully I will have time to post about it tonight.

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  2. Sleep is definitely awesome! I'm sorry it's not going very well. Things are definitely better in my house sleep-wise if I put Alex to bed awake. I turn the mobile on, and she stares at it for awhile, then rolls over and sleeps. Sometimes she cries for about 5 minutes. But I've never let her cry longer than 10 minutes. If she goes 10 minutes, I go in, pick her up, console her, then start all over. I hate to hear her cry, but I think she has now learned to self-sooth, and she will sleep through the whole night. If I put her in her crib asleep, she wakes up later, I think gets confused, and cries! But now that I've accepted that she stirs a little in the middle of the night and might make noises but doesn't wake up, everybody's happier. I hope that helps! Good luck!!!

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    1. This does help! I was thinking of you when I wrote this post. I was so impressed by your sleep post earlier this week, or was it last week? Ha, who knows. I need sleep ;)

      Besides having a bedtime routine and time, I know I have been doing everything wrong when it comes to baby sleep. I nurse her to sleep and nurse her whenever she wakes up at night. Up until a week ago she was still sleeping in our room... and most nights ended up in our bed.

      This past week we worked on keeping her in her room, which was a success. Just moving her there helped reduce her night wakings to two a night, which is much more bearable.

      Tonight I am going to begin putting her in her crib drowsy, but awake. I will let her fuss and roll around in there, but I am not sure how much actual crying I will be able to allow. We'll see. Thankfully P will be there tonight when she goes to sleep and will be able to help with the strategy.

      Thanks so much for your comment and your blog post... it makes total sense that if she falls asleep on my boob, that when she wakes up, boobless in her crib, that she would protest until the boob returned ;)

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  3. sleep is definately awesome, good luck!

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  4. Sleep with baby E has been so. freaking. hard. more than 16 months of not sleeping for more than a couple of hours at a time. I was a basketcase. Every kid is so very different. I don't know that there are definite "right" and "wrong" things to do (universally at least). I think what's right for your baby is whatever it is that seems to work for her, and for you! Which may be the "wrong" thing for a friend's baby. Trial and error. It's all about trial and error. And luck. Luck is also very helpful. I wish you lots of it!

    Also, thanks for the visit to my blog :)

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    1. Thanks for the luck... I think it's been helping! I hope you have had some with baby E's sleep as well.

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  5. Bedsharing is awesome :) Barely have to wake up in the night to feed him. Love it. And I'm quite happy to feed to sleep for as long as he'll let me :D Not saying that's the only way to do it - just want to say that it's not a bad thing, UNLESS you're not happy to do it :)

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    1. Hi B! I do love bedsharing and nursing her to sleep, but it wasn't working for us anymore. I will be updating in a post soon.

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